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There are three types of intelligence, viz: Intelligence Quotient (IQ), Emotional Quotient (EQ). Social Quotient (SQ).
1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your comprehension ability", solve math; memorize things and recall subject matters.
2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your
ability to maintain peace with others; keep to time; be responsible; be honest;
respect boundaries; be humble, genuine and considerate.
3. Social Quotient (SQ): this is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it
over a long period of time.
People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go farther in life
than those with high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize in improving
IQ level while EQ and SQ are played down.
A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high
EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.
Your EQ represents your character; your SQ represents your
charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs but more
especially your EQ and SQ. EQ and SQ make one manage better than the other.
⇒Please don't teach children only to be IQ but also to be EQ and
SQ.
Now there is a 4th one: A new paradigm
4. The Adversity Quotient (AQ): the measure of your ability
to go through a rough patch in life and
come out without losing your mind.
AQ determines who will give up in face of troubles, who will
abandon their family or who will consider suicide.
⇒To parents:
Expose children to other areas of life than academic. They
should adore manual work (never use work as a form of punishment), sport and
art. Develop their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings
able to do things independently of the parents. Do not prepare the road for the children. Prepare
the children for the road!
What is Emotional Intelligence?
In 1995, psychologist and science journalist, Daniel Goleman, published a book introducing most of the world to the nascent concept of Emotional Intelligence. He posited that the ability to understand and manage emotions highly increases our chances of success. Thereafter, this has been influencing the way people think about emotions and human behavior.
Emotional Intelligence (otherwise known as emotional quotient or EQ) is defined as individual's ability to recognize their own, and other people's emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior, and to manage and/or adjust emotions to achieve one's goal(s). It is the ability to understand and manage your emotions, and those of the people around you.
People with a high degree of emotional intelligence know what they're feeling, what their emotions mean, and how these emotions can affect other people. CEO's, managers, and high performers leverage emotional intelligence to foster a positive and productive corporation culture, and therefore they adapt when working on diverse teams and complex projects.
A way of improving your EQ is taking responsibility for your actions. For example, the next time you are frustrated, try asking yourself: What role did I play in this happening? What am I meant to learn from this? How can I do things differently next time?... and so on. Also, practise "HALT" (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired). When you are in any of those states, recognize that you may not be the best version of yourself.
The key components of Emotional Intelligence are: Self-awareness, Self-management, Social awareness and Relationship Management.
Self-awareness: it is the ability to be conscious of all aspects of your personality - your strengths, weaknesses, emotions and motivations. It involves recognizing your own emotions and knowing your abilities and limits.
Self-management: it involves checking disruptive emotions, maintaining integrity, and being flexible.
Social-awareness: this is seeing others' emotions and interests, and meeting others' needs.
Relationship management: developing and inspiring others, managing change and conflict.
An individual with a high emotional quotient:
- Understand others: things everybody needs to understand about people are: (a) everybody wants to be somebody (b) nobody cares how much you know until he knows how much you care (c) everybody needs somebody (d) everybody can be somebody when somebody understands and believes in her (e) anybody who helps somebody influences a lot of bodies.
- Enlarges others: carefully choose persons to enlarge; see their potential, cast a vision for their future, tap into their passion, address character flaws, focus on their strengths, enlarge them one step at a time,put resources in their hands and teach them to be self-enlargers.
- Connects with people: takes people not for granted, possess a make-a-difference mind-set, look for common ground, recognize and respects differences in personality, communicate from the heart, share common experiences,
- Empowers people: evaluate people, model for them, give them permission to succeed, transfer authority to them, publicly show your confidence in them, supply them with feedback and release them to continue on their own.
Let me round up with the "Paradoxical Commandments of Leadership", which says:
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered - love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives - do good anyway.
If you are successful, you'll win false friends and true enemies - succeed anyway.
The good you do today will perhaps be forgotten tomorrow - do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable - be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest man with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest man with the smallest mind - think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only hot dogs - fight for the few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight - build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you help them - help them anyway.
Give the world the best that you have and you will get kicked in the teeth - give the world the best that you have anyway.
If better is possible, then good is not enough!
References:
➢ Misk Global Forum: future fit skills
➢ www.mindtools.com
➢ www.inc.com
➢ Becoming a person of Influence by John Maxwell & Jim Dornan
Stay safe and be inspired!
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